How to throw a divorce party
A simple plan for the friend who's organizing it, from the first conversation to the morning after.
1. Check in with her
Ask if she wants a party at all, and what kind. Some people want a big night out, and others want a quiet dinner. Her answer shapes everything else.
2. Pick the vibe
- Wild night out, pampered weekend or cozy night in?
- Funny, sentimental or both?
- Is the ex off-limits as a topic, or fair game?
3. Make the guest list
Invite the people who lift her up. Keep it to friends she trusts, and leave mutual friends off unless she asks for them.
4. Set a date and a budget
- Choose a date when she's ready, not just when the paperwork is.
- Agree on a per-person budget, and tell guests what it covers.
- Cover her share as a group. She's the guest of honor.
5. Book the venue and the extras
- Book the venue first, then the dinner, then any entertainment.
- Check the venue's guest and noise rules in writing.
- Sort rides there and back.
6. Plan the toast
Ask two or three friends to say a few words about who she is and what's ahead. Keep each speech short, and end with everyone raising a glass.
7. Look after her the next day
- Plan a slow brunch or a quiet morning.
- Share the photos privately first.
- Check in a week later. The party is one night, the support lasts longer.
Quick answers
How far ahead should we plan?
Four to eight weeks is plenty for most parties. Give yourself longer for a weekend away or a boat day in busy season.
Should it be a surprise?
Usually not. A divorce party works best when she's in on it and gets a say.
Want us to plan it?
Tell us about her on the home page. A P* On Call planner will reply with ideas you can change.